The Truth...Hurts

There is something uncomfortable about emotional pain. Innately, we don't like to see it. We feel the pain of those we love and we want to fix it. We want it to stop. From the time our children are babies, or we are infants ourselves, we have a physiological response to the internal pain of others. A measured response. We can feel what they feel.

Yet, look at how we are conditioned to respond. "Shhh, don't cry."; "Now, stop. It's OK. Think about something else."; Think, for just a minute...you come to a friend in tears. You've had a hard day. Your heart is broken. You want and need nothing else but to feel your hurt and cry. They open their arms and pat you on the back and you collapse in uncontrollable sobs. They allow you to cry, saying only; "I'm so sorry. I love you." or "Shhh, don't cry.", "Now, stop that."

Which friend do you seek the next time you have pain? If you suppress that pain like the second one wants you to do the internal damage is noticeable, especially over time. And we do this to each other from the day we are born. We want pain to stop because we haven't learned how to accept it. We haven't learned how to feel it.

Sadness and hurt are a part of life. It sucks. But owning that pain and allowing it come out is nature's way, it God's way, of helping us to heal. So, cry. Feel your hurt. Right here, right now, for "tomorrow" will seem brighter when you acknowlege today.